INSECURITY IN RELATIONSHIPS:
Insecurity is a feeling which comes from lack of confidence or a threat or fear that the world is about to get them. Insecurity eats us from the inside. Insecurity is like a snake which slithers around you and then poisons you or anything that comes in its way. Our relationships are tainted by this venomous trait. We do not realize it, but our insecurities are a significant cause of restlessness and mayhem in our lives. An insecure person imagines things that do not have any ground reality attached to, them. This wild imagination and insecurity jeopardize the positivity in a relationship. Insecurity not only negatively effects the one who is suffering from it but also the one who is on the receiving end. It gets difficult for the latter to prove themselves again and again and satisfy the imagination because meeting someone else’s fancy is nearly impossible.
ARE YOU AN INSECURE PARTNER?
Why is he ignoring me? Why is she hanging out with her guy friend? Is he cheating on me with his classmate, he could she is prettier than me. He said no for a hangout with my friends, has he lost interest in me? Why hasn’t she texted me the whole day, is she done with me? Maybe that guy is taller than me, and she is interested in him. Why is he going for a picnic with his friends, does he want to spend time with his ex-crush?
These and several other such questions often cross a person’s mind who is insecure about him/herself and who is insecure about the relationship too. If you often ask questions of such a nature that it is an alarming situation for you, you need to realize that you have developed an insecure personality. It is not healthy for a relationship and any other social interaction, it weighs down your personality as well.
4 STEPS TO COPE UP WITH INSECURITY:
These are some of the steps that will help you overcome this damaging personality trait:
CUT IT THE OVERTHINKING: The problem doesn’t lie with the situation or your partner but within you. You think about the possibilities and problems that do not even exist. Things which are not real cannot be solved. There is nothing one can do to read your mind and to make you feel better. You need to work on yourself by asking yourself that whatever I am thinking is just in my imagination or is there any truth behind it. Answer yourself logically and not emotionally. Emotions can cloud your mind, and it can blur your thoughts and logic, which can be harmful to your relation and personality.
2)STOP CARRYING YOUR PAST WITH YOU:
usually, an insecure person is insecure because of their bitter past experiences. Their bad experiences control their mind conscious. A person thinks that he/she is protecting themselves from getting hurt, but eventually they end up hurting themselves more than before by losing something valuable due to insecurity. You are scared to face those bitter emotions just like you did in the past but what you don’t understand is that this barrier is keeping you away from many beautiful and memorable experiences in life. Leave your past experiences behind and then get into a relationship with positivity and you will see the magic it brings in your life.
3)STOP FEELING PARANOID OVER EVERYTHING:
let’s accept the fact that in today’s world one cannot avoid interaction with the opposite sex. The world has shaped in a way that men and women are together in every field and you are living in the same world. You need to be mature enough to realize this fact and trust your partner that he will stay honest with you and your paranoia will just destroy the bond of trust that you both share. Stop sneaking into your partner’s social accounts, phone or emails. Control this urge and give your partner some space to have a regular social life which everyone else and maybe even you have. This behavior is addictive, and addiction to anything will have a dull and a gloomy end.
4)STOP TRYING TO READ MINDS:
it may sound very ordinary to guess what your partner is thinking, but it isn’t. Your assumptions will only destroy your mental peace and your connection with your partner as you will keep on doubting him. Your partner might be thinking about the football match, a dish to cook tomorrow, an office issue or what should be his strategy for the next meeting but your insecurity will make you read his mind as “he is losing interest in me, he has someone else in his life, he/she is thinking about the small argument that you had the other day.” So give yourself and your partner some break and let them have some alone time. They are not thinking anything that you are thinking that they are thinking.
Insecurity is not just disastrous for any relationship but also for you mind and personality. Save yourself from this addictive and damaging trait and bring positivity in your life.